Posts tagged understanding
Unlock Love - How do you know when it's right?
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Love. It's the ultimate goal, isn't it? We are all having a human experience, seeking companionship. It's a biological and psychological desire, but its entirely illogical. Love is scary. When you are ready to expose your heart to someone, letting them in with the understanding that it could be broken at any time is terrifying. Even when it is right. The healthiest relationships are not without fear.

So how do you know the relationship is right?

How do you know when it's worth exposing your heart?

When do you know that your fears are worth fighting through?

When you find peace.

Peace in knowing where you stand, at all times. Peace in knowing that they treasure and will protect your heart as much as you do theirs. Peace in knowing that you are on a path together, growing indefinitely.

I see so many in a cycle of anxiety. Allowing themselves to be held hostage by the inconsistent affections, attention, and love of another. Questioning whether the relationship is worth their time. Questioning themselves.

Love doesn't make you question yourself. Love doesn't cause pain. Love brings peace.

I not only wish you love, I wish you peace.

Ego vs. Heart
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Woah. That's the kind of day I had yesterday. Ever have a moment when you could finally put words to a feeling?

I attended Reveal, a women's event focused on spirituality, kindness and self love, and left with an understanding of why I have been feeling what I have been feeling. You see, after my recent retreat, I came back with a lack of a desire to be plastered on television, or quoted in major magazines. Not that I won't appear occasionally, but it isn't a focus to land every possible segment or get my own show.

Instead of bright lights and cameras, I felt the strongest pull to speak, to coach, and to transform. I just didn't know why.

Yesterday, I realized it was because I am now choosing heart over ego.

I realized so many of my decisions are based in ego. What makes me look better? What makes me look cool? What validates the little girl inside who didn't feel good enough?

TV appearances feed my ego.

Coaching and speaking feed my soul.

Getting picked to be the date of the hottest, richest, most famous guy feeds the ego.

Creating a true loving connection filled with communication, shared values, and similar goals feeds the heart.

I have to tell you, it feels amazing to feed the heart.

What choices are you making in your life based on ego?

How would they be different if they were based on heart?

There is a reason the saying is "follow your heart".

PS - Speaking of heart based speaking, my most recent TEDx is now available!

I was absolutely honored to speak at my alma mater's first TEDx event on "Killing Fear" last month. Fear is so pervasive in our lives, and I am passionate about helping people overcome the fears that hold them back in life and love. It's actually the topic of my next book.