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It's ok to get angry

Every week I try to write something that resonates for me, and each time I go deep below the surface, I get such amazing feedback from you that inspires me to share (and over share) more. Well, this week was a challenge for me. I sat this morning thinking about what to write, and I was afraid to be really real. I was afraid you would judge me. The fact is, I got pretty irritated this week. I wouldn't go so far to say pissed off, but absolutely irritated. The problem? Too much. Too much _what_ you ask? Everything. I'm a pretty positive person. I take most things in stride, and thrive on change, growth and excitement. But sometimes, even I need a time out. This week was a great week for so many reasons. I made some BIG plans for changes coming in the next year, I worked on my first TV pilot, and I had amazing calls with my coaching clients. However, in the midst of that, both my kids got sick, schedules changed a million times, and I had some serious negative feelings after allowing a toxic relationship temporarily back in my life.

Ok, maybe I did get a little pissed.

I sat with my anger this weekend, and tried to understand why it arose. What is it's purpose? Why is it there? That gave me the answer I needed to move past it, and back to my happy place (it's SO much nicer there!).

You see, anger can be a catalyst for change. When we are in our lowest state, feeling depressed or like a victim, anger can be the process that raises you to the next level. Anger can inspire you to make changes. Anger can help you remove yourselves from toxic situations without regret. Anger can help you realize your need to take back control, set boundaries, and create the life you want.

I realized that anger isn't all bad.

While I'm not encouraging you to go out and get angry without reason, I am asking that you try to understand your anger. Why is it there? What good can come from it? What changes can you make to get you to YOUR happy place? Every emotion has a purpose. It's up to you to utilize it to your benefit.

Priorities Are Powerful

I had planned to write about something entirely different this week, but the events of the past few days changed that. From the stories of chaos at Black Friday sales to the untimely passing of Paul Walker to the story this morning of a derailed train en route to NYC, I found my self-thinking nonstop about priorities and how precious our time is on this earth. How we rank our priorities has a lot to do with how we use our energy while we are here. I'll tell you one thing, those who were trampling workers and getting into fights at 5am at Walmart this past Friday don't seem to place a high value on love and kindness. What are your priorities and how do you rank them? Is it family? Love? Money? What gets you up in the morning excited to start another day? What weighs on your mind the most?

Are the priorities you truly want to make a focus in your life taking those top spots? What do you spend the majority of your resources (time, money, energy) trying to achieve?

Identifying, and sometimes rearranging, your priorities not only allows you to live a purposeful, intention-driven life, but it also plays a large role in dating. Identifying what drives you at your core can help you figure out how committed you are to finding love AND exactly who you are looking for.

Take a few minutes before you start your week, and make a list of: 1. What it is that you truly value. 2. What you are spending the majority of your time working towards. 3. What traits you would value in a partner.

Compare numbers 1 and 2, are you working towards achieving that which you truly value? Looking at number 3, how do your potential partner's characteristic's fit into your life?

Understanding what we want and need at our core can be essential to getting what we want.