“What day is it?"It's today," squeaked Piglet. My favorite day," said Pooh.” ― A.A. Milne
I've always been of the opinion that life is short, we should embrace every moment, not sweat the small stuff, and live a positive life. These feelings were only exemplified by a speaking engagement I had this week.
A few nights ago, I was humbled and honored to speak to a group of widows. Women of all ages who had lost their partners far sooner than they had ever imagined. The loss in the room was palpable. My usual topics were wholly inappropriate. While I was asked to come in and speak about dating, putting yourself back out there, and flirting, it was clear in the first 10 seconds that the majority of the women were far from ready.
How could I talk about love and dating, when all that these women wanted was the love they had?
How could I even mention the word "flirt" when they were terrified of being intimate again with someone other than their late husband?
So we changed the course of the night. We focused on self-love. We talked about starting new relationships, especially platonic relationships, for their own benefit. We created plans to remove fears.
It was one of the most beautiful experiences I have been lucky enough to be a part of. It left me awestruck. I learned so much more from these strong, amazing, beautiful women than they could ever learn from me.
I learned to love like there is no tomorrow.
I learned to appreciate every loved one in my life, for our time together is not guaranteed.
I learned to value the power of friendship, and its capability to heal.
I learned to stop wasting time.
Every experience we have has a lesson for us, but this one struck my heart hard, which is why I wanted to share that experience with you. When you find love, hold onto it. Cherish your loved ones every day. Appreciate your friends, and most importantly your time...
There are no guarantees.