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It's ok to be angry.
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99% of the time, I am happy. Truly happy, and content. But I have been hurt. I have experienced heartache, and anger over that heartache, both against the situation, and the person involved.

Frankly, I've been still feeling angry about something that I thought would have blown over by now. It's not worth the energy, I know that logically, and I've moved on in every way. But I'm still pissed.

_**And it's ok.**_

It's ok to be angry about something. It's ok to feel anger against someone who hurt you or broke your trust. I wrote in an Instagram post today how akin anger is to a crying toddler. The more you ignore it, the louder it will scream.

So what do we do with this anger?

Embrace it. Validate your anger - and yourself for feeling it, because _**it is ok to be angry**_. Never be afraid to feel your feelings. Talk them out. Write them out. Cry them out. Scream them out. The key word? OUT. The longer we hold in our feelings or shame them by feeling they are "wrong", the more damage they can do.

Let the feelings out. Accept their existence. Eventually, the pain will pass, and the wound will heal. And on the other side of that anger? There is new knowledge, perspective, and likely the puppies, rainbows, and unicorns you've been missing.

I chopped it all off...
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My hair that is. You see, for years I've had extensions. You know, that fake (well, actually it's real, just not mine) hair that everyone on TV has? I got it a few years ago. My hair was always thinner than I wanted (why couldn't my legs have that problem?!), and when I started doing TV regularly, I decided I might as well join my cohorts in enhancing what God didn't give me.

I'm over them. Sure I think they were pretty, and made me feel more feminine and confident, but they also made me insecure at the same time. Having to tell my boyfriend to be careful of them, worrying that someone would see them if it was windy out. One day last week they just started to come undone, and I realized it was time to let them go.

I'm just fine the way I am. I don't need extra hair to feel amazing. My hair doesn't define me. It's just an accessory. Don't get me wrong, I am a proponent of doing what you need to do to feel good about yourself. Sometimes that's permanent, and sometimes it's temporary, like extensions. I needed them at the moment to feel confident on TV, but now I know all I need is within me. My knowledge (and hopefully my sense of humor) is why I'm there.

So I'm releasing a crutch, and it feels awesome. What's your crutch? What are you using to boost your self esteem that may not truly be a part of you? Ever try going without it? Even temporarily? It's pretty liberating.