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Stop Wasting Your Time

“What day is it?"It's today," squeaked Piglet. My favorite day," said Pooh.” ― A.A. Milne

I've always been of the opinion that life is short, we should embrace every moment, not sweat the small stuff, and live a positive life. These feelings were only exemplified by a speaking engagement I had this week.

A few nights ago, I was humbled and honored to speak to a group of widows. Women of all ages who had lost their partners far sooner than they had ever imagined. The loss in the room was palpable. My usual topics were wholly inappropriate. While I was asked to come in and speak about dating, putting yourself back out there, and flirting, it was clear in the first 10 seconds that the majority of the women were far from ready.

How could I talk about love and dating, when all that these women wanted was the love they had?

How could I even mention the word "flirt" when they were terrified of being intimate again with someone other than their late husband?

So we changed the course of the night. We focused on self-love. We talked about starting new relationships, especially platonic relationships, for their own benefit. We created plans to remove fears.

It was one of the most beautiful experiences I have been lucky enough to be a part of. It left me awestruck. I learned so much more from these strong, amazing, beautiful women than they could ever learn from me.

I learned to love like there is no tomorrow.

I learned to appreciate every loved one in my life, for our time together is not guaranteed.

I learned to value the power of friendship, and its capability to heal.

I learned to stop wasting time.

Every experience we have has a lesson for us, but this one struck my heart hard, which is why I wanted to share that experience with you. When you find love, hold onto it. Cherish your loved ones every day. Appreciate your friends, and most importantly your time...

There are no guarantees.

Five Ways to Find Love this Fall

Fall is 100% my favorite time of the entire year. Jeans and a sweater weather, football, and the excuse to go on a soup cooking bender makes me happy. It is also a great time to reset your focus, and put some effort into finding love! When the weather cools down and the beaches are closed, many singles find themselves ready to find their match. Here are my tips for finding fall love as shared on The Couch this morning on CBS in NYC. 1. Embrace the season - Every season has its own unique opportunities to meet people, i.e., the beach in the summer, skiing in the winter, and the fall is no different! Its football season, and if you are a single female, you are doing yourself a disservice if you don't head to your local sports bar on Sundays. Find a pumpkin or apple picking event on Join a hiking club. Create your own potluck supper club - fall is all about comfort foods, have everyone bring a dish and single friend. The possibilities are endless.

2. Enlist your friends - Tell them you are single and looking! This should be done seasonally. Some of those close to you may not want to overstep their boundaries, so let them know that you are open to meeting anyone they think you could click with. No expectations, but it is great to get the energy out there!

3. Create a calendar - You will never meet anyone sitting home. Create a calendar where are you are twice a week at events, groups, or drinks with friends. You don't need to focus on dating-related activities, even business networking events work! The goal is to grow your love tree. The more people you know, the more options/branches you have.

4. Put pen to paper - Describing where you see yourself in 6 months or a year is a power-packed activity! Write it down with a real pen and paper (no typing!) and describe what your life looks like, who your partner is, where you spend time, and how you feel. Be as detailed as possible. Visualizing what you want, who you want, and how you'll feel when you get it is seriously powerful.

5. It's all about attitude - Regardless of the season, your attitude matters most. Embrace the possibilities, keep your expectations in check and realize that not everyone is for you, but they are still great people. Positivity is an intoxicating trait, and one that is often desired by my clients, and sometimes difficult to find. You attract what you put out there.

What are your plans to find love this fall?