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What no one is telling you about dating.
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I work amongst a sea of colleagues, many of which I hold in high esteem. However, the dating "industry" is flawed. So many are trying to sell a magical solution. A way to solve all problems in 6 weeks, 3 months, a weekend... Just read this book, take this class, attend this retreat and all your worries will leave you. Even more, Mr./Ms. Right will arrive on cue. The problem isn't that they don't believe that it can happen, or that it won't work for some, it's that it will never work for all.

Just like diets, there is no one size fits all advice for dating. We are all so intricately different. Our emotions, our reactions, our desires. All so varied.

So here's the secret....there is no secret formula that we have and you don't. We don't have a magic wand to create chemistry, the perfect opportunities, or love.

All I have as a coach is the ability to work with you to discover what within you would create the best environment for love to grow. That's it.

My "secret" formula? It's not so secret. I truly believe that lasting healthy love comes down to three things. There's no guarantee that the man or woman of your dreams will knock on your door when you've completed them, but you'll be ready if they do.

So here they are: - Learn to love yourself - Be open to love from others - Release attachments of an expected outcome

Everything else? It's marketing. I've said it before, but it's worth repeating. We have no control over when love arrives in our life. It's magic. All we have is the ability to put ourselves in a position where it will stay.

Unlock Love - What did you expect?

Expectations. We all have them. Unfortunately, more often than not, those expectations can become the root of massive frustration. "I expected to find my soul mate by now"

"I expect the person I'm dating to be perfect"

"I expect him to know what I need"

Are you just over it when it comes to dating and the pursuit of love, finding nothing but disappointment?

Frustrated your relationship, wishing they could just read your mind?

Or maybe you are right in the thick of heartbreak right now.

In my last newsletter, I mentioned an upcoming event in New York. One which I urge you to attend, regardless of where you are along your love path. Single or attached, we all continue to have expectations, and when those expectations aren't met? A massive hangover.

Join me and Christine Hassler, an amazing coach, speaker, author and friend, for Overcoming Expectation Hangovers in Love and Relationships,, a workshop based on her new (amazing) book Expectation Hangover.

This isn't a seminar where you are talked at for hours and hope to get one nugget that you can apply to your life. This is an experiential workshop. Christine and I will be taking a deep dive into how your expectations are affecting your relationships and dating life.

IN THIS WORKSHOP YOU WILL LEARN HOW TO: - Overcome your Expectation Hangover using unbelievably effective methods to move past disappointment to a place of empowerment. - Prevent future Expectation Hangovers by identifying the quick fixes that don’t work and the tools that do. - Forgive what you have not been able to forgive before. - Communicate your needs in your relationship in a way that your partner can understand. - Develop a game plan to meet your match, while avoiding an Expectation Hangover, including an online and offline strategy. - Establish a plan for self-care that fulfills your love of self, which is essential to finding romantic love. - Meditate to release anxiety and move into your intuition. - Heal old wounds that seem to keep getting reopened.

We all have expectations, but why have the painful side affects of a hangover if you can avoid it?

Click HERE for tickets to this transformative event. Every ticket comes with a copy of Expectation Hangover.See you there!

xo,

Rachel

PS: This is an intentionally intimate venue, and space is very limited, so be sure to grab your spot HERE asap!

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