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It's ok to get angry

Every week I try to write something that resonates for me, and each time I go deep below the surface, I get such amazing feedback from you that inspires me to share (and over share) more. Well, this week was a challenge for me. I sat this morning thinking about what to write, and I was afraid to be really real. I was afraid you would judge me. The fact is, I got pretty irritated this week. I wouldn't go so far to say pissed off, but absolutely irritated. The problem? Too much. Too much _what_ you ask? Everything. I'm a pretty positive person. I take most things in stride, and thrive on change, growth and excitement. But sometimes, even I need a time out. This week was a great week for so many reasons. I made some BIG plans for changes coming in the next year, I worked on my first TV pilot, and I had amazing calls with my coaching clients. However, in the midst of that, both my kids got sick, schedules changed a million times, and I had some serious negative feelings after allowing a toxic relationship temporarily back in my life.

Ok, maybe I did get a little pissed.

I sat with my anger this weekend, and tried to understand why it arose. What is it's purpose? Why is it there? That gave me the answer I needed to move past it, and back to my happy place (it's SO much nicer there!).

You see, anger can be a catalyst for change. When we are in our lowest state, feeling depressed or like a victim, anger can be the process that raises you to the next level. Anger can inspire you to make changes. Anger can help you remove yourselves from toxic situations without regret. Anger can help you realize your need to take back control, set boundaries, and create the life you want.

I realized that anger isn't all bad.

While I'm not encouraging you to go out and get angry without reason, I am asking that you try to understand your anger. Why is it there? What good can come from it? What changes can you make to get you to YOUR happy place? Every emotion has a purpose. It's up to you to utilize it to your benefit.

Two Weeks to a New Year, and a New Perspective

The saying goes, "New Year, New You" right? Well, I think the existing you is just awesome. I'm not of the opinion that starting 2014 with a feeling that you need to be completely made over is the best for anyone's self-esteem. I know it doesn't resonate with me. I am, however, a huge proponent of constantly growing and learning, which of course leads to changes within myself, but I am still me. I don't want a "new" me, I want to become the best me.

My challenge? Spend the next few weeks creating a path to become the best you in 2014. Here are some things I will be doing, and I would love if you joined in:

  • Gratitude Journal - I will be journalling every day. Writing down five amazing things that I am thankful for every night. Have more? Add them. No less than 5. Anything goes.
  • Design Your Life - You are the creator of your destiny. What do you want in 2014? A loving relationship? More fun? A better job? Write it out. What does your life look like on December 31, 2014? Who are you with? How do you feel? Why are you thankful? The more details the better.
  • Commit to You Time - This time of year is filled with obligations. Sure, some of those obligations are fun! However, that holiday party can still be a drain on your energy. You time is essential right now to get in the right frame of mind for the new year. I will be designating time every day to shut off my phone, lock my kids in the closet (kidding! I'll wait until they are in bed), and just relax.