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Stop Wasting Your Time

“What day is it?"It's today," squeaked Piglet. My favorite day," said Pooh.” ― A.A. Milne

I've always been of the opinion that life is short, we should embrace every moment, not sweat the small stuff, and live a positive life. These feelings were only exemplified by a speaking engagement I had this week.

A few nights ago, I was humbled and honored to speak to a group of widows. Women of all ages who had lost their partners far sooner than they had ever imagined. The loss in the room was palpable. My usual topics were wholly inappropriate. While I was asked to come in and speak about dating, putting yourself back out there, and flirting, it was clear in the first 10 seconds that the majority of the women were far from ready.

How could I talk about love and dating, when all that these women wanted was the love they had?

How could I even mention the word "flirt" when they were terrified of being intimate again with someone other than their late husband?

So we changed the course of the night. We focused on self-love. We talked about starting new relationships, especially platonic relationships, for their own benefit. We created plans to remove fears.

It was one of the most beautiful experiences I have been lucky enough to be a part of. It left me awestruck. I learned so much more from these strong, amazing, beautiful women than they could ever learn from me.

I learned to love like there is no tomorrow.

I learned to appreciate every loved one in my life, for our time together is not guaranteed.

I learned to value the power of friendship, and its capability to heal.

I learned to stop wasting time.

Every experience we have has a lesson for us, but this one struck my heart hard, which is why I wanted to share that experience with you. When you find love, hold onto it. Cherish your loved ones every day. Appreciate your friends, and most importantly your time...

There are no guarantees.

Why Are You Thankful?

It's Thanksgiving week here in the US. As we all get ready to stuff ourselves silly on turkey, stuffing, cranberry sauce, and pumpkin pie (mmmmm....pumpkin pie), I am so grateful for the ever present and ever necessary reminder to give thanks. In our lives it is easy to run on autopilot, to focus on the things we want to change as opposed to the things that should stay the same, and to suffer from a case of the "only ifs". This week, to me, is about slowing down. It's about taking time to smell the roses (or pumpkin pie) and to count of all of my blessings. It's about taking account of every aspect of my life that makes me happy, and appreciating all of the massive gifts I have been given. Do I still want to do more, be more, and achieve more? Sure. However, I won't appreciate where I am going if I don't feel thankful for where I am. What are you thankful for?

Who are you thankful for?

What can you do this week to slow down and take note of all the amazingness in your life?

I would love to encourage you to start a gratitude journal. Even if it is just for the week, spend 5 minutes every morning to make a list of the things you are thankful for. It could be as simple as a great cup of coffee, or as deep as your most meaningful relationship. Writing down what you are grateful for gives those feelings power. Keeping track of the things you are thankful for on a regular basis can help to give you perspective when you feel that your life would be amazing....only if ________.

Have an awesome Thanksgiving. Eat up that pumpkin pie, and give thanks.