Posts tagged answer
Who you should really be listening to....
7465742.jpg

Experts. Gurus. Coaches. There seems to be one for everything and everyone. Their advice often contradicts. The foundation of their expertise can be questionable. Anyone with a mouth and an opinion seems to be giving themselves some sort of title of importance these days. Including me. My legal background and education/regulation required me to do more than hang up a shingle. I sought certification as a coach, I've attended too many seminars and workshops to count, and I have an infinite search for knowledge. Does that mean I know everything? Not a chance. I'm always learning. So who should you listen to? Who should you turn to when you are looking for guidance or feel lost, confused, or frustrated?

The answer isn't me.

It's you.

Every one of us has an immense amount of intuition. My clients often tell me, "I KNOW this! I could do your job!" The truth is, yes, you could! I believe that every single person reading this has the answers within them. What to do, where to go, and who to love. You KNOW when there is a red flag that you breeze past in hopes that this time will be different. You KNOW that you need to break out of your comfort zone to make a change. You KNOW that you deserve more than crumbs.

Experts, gurus, coaches, me. We are only here to help you unearth that intuition, unblock your own walls that keep you from following what you already KNOW, and help along the way by sharing what has worked for others.

We aren't all-knowing. We aren't better than anyone else. We simply have found a way to help you realize that you knew the answers all along. You just needed to turn up the volume.

Make the Choices that Work for YOU

I just spent a weekend immersed in training to make me a better coach, listener, and guide for the people I work with. It was an amazing experience, not just for my clients, but for ME. A lot of the training helps me work through areas of my life that need improvement and redirection. I made some amazing breakthroughs personally, and am so grateful for the opportunity to do so. The one thing that kept coming back to me (and I think is so important for you to hear) is that YOUR answer to a situation may be very different from mine, your friend's or your family's answer. Regardless of what an expert advises you to do (including me!), listen to yourself. Make sure the decisions you make resonate with YOU. We have an amazing sense of intuition that guides our decisions. Honor that intuition. Listen to rational advice, but trust your own instincts to guide you. Here is a quick four-step technique to tap into what you already know:

  1. Find a space where you will be uninterrupted. Turn off all distractions.
  2. Take a few minutes to center yourself. Close your eyes. Breathe in and out deeply. Focus on your breath and let your body relax.
  3. Imagine the situation you are seeking answers around, but picture it as if it has been solved. Feel the emotions, and embrace them.
  4. Open your eyes and reflect on what you envisioned and how you felt. Sit with it for a minute.

This technique can help to guide you in any situation - dating, a stressful issue at work, or a decision you have to make. Every amazing breakthrough is within us already. We just have to be centered and focused enough to unleash it.