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I'll Just Wait Until I'm Perfect to Date

Perfection. What is perfect anyway? I'll tell you. It's a unicorn. Yep, we are talking unicorns again, because there is NO SUCH THING as being perfect, and sadly, unicorns aren't real. No such thing and no such person. So why are you chasing perfection? Why are you putting so much pressure on yourself to be "perfect" before you feel dateable? I have 10 extra pounds on me that I am not a fan of. We aren't friends. They weren't invited, and have overextended their stay. One day they might leave, hopefully. However, until then, I am not going to stop living my life. I am not going to hide at home. There is NOTHING that it stops me from doing, other than reaching for (more) cookies. I'm not going to stop dating though.

I see singles all the time that put off dating for a variety of irrelevant reasons: I need to lose weight, I have to grow out this terrible haircut, my clothes are terrible, I hate my nose, and so on to infinity. There are good reasons to put off dating, including self-awareness and taking time to heal a heartbreak, but never something superficial.

Sure, appearances can matter, BUT your attitude far outshines your nose. My confidence and love of life make those ten pounds invisible, and if someone DOES see them, that is their problem, not mine.

Learn to love yourself as you are. Today. Not an idealized version of the "perfect" you. That version may never appear, and then where are you? There is a lid for every pot, and your lid (or pot depending on your preference) isn't going to care about your bad haircut, they are going to love your amazing heart.

 

Two Weeks to a New Year, and a New Perspective

The saying goes, "New Year, New You" right? Well, I think the existing you is just awesome. I'm not of the opinion that starting 2014 with a feeling that you need to be completely made over is the best for anyone's self-esteem. I know it doesn't resonate with me. I am, however, a huge proponent of constantly growing and learning, which of course leads to changes within myself, but I am still me. I don't want a "new" me, I want to become the best me.

My challenge? Spend the next few weeks creating a path to become the best you in 2014. Here are some things I will be doing, and I would love if you joined in:

  • Gratitude Journal - I will be journalling every day. Writing down five amazing things that I am thankful for every night. Have more? Add them. No less than 5. Anything goes.
  • Design Your Life - You are the creator of your destiny. What do you want in 2014? A loving relationship? More fun? A better job? Write it out. What does your life look like on December 31, 2014? Who are you with? How do you feel? Why are you thankful? The more details the better.
  • Commit to You Time - This time of year is filled with obligations. Sure, some of those obligations are fun! However, that holiday party can still be a drain on your energy. You time is essential right now to get in the right frame of mind for the new year. I will be designating time every day to shut off my phone, lock my kids in the closet (kidding! I'll wait until they are in bed), and just relax.