What no one is telling you about dating.

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I work amongst a sea of colleagues, many of which I hold in high esteem. However, the dating "industry" is flawed. So many are trying to sell a magical solution. A way to solve all problems in 6 weeks, 3 months, a weekend... Just read this book, take this class, attend this retreat and all your worries will leave you. Even more, Mr./Ms. Right will arrive on cue. The problem isn't that they don't believe that it can happen, or that it won't work for some, it's that it will never work for all.

Just like diets, there is no one size fits all advice for dating. We are all so intricately different. Our emotions, our reactions, our desires. All so varied.

So here's the secret....there is no secret formula that we have and you don't. We don't have a magic wand to create chemistry, the perfect opportunities, or love.

All I have as a coach is the ability to work with you to discover what within you would create the best environment for love to grow. That's it.

My "secret" formula? It's not so secret. I truly believe that lasting healthy love comes down to three things. There's no guarantee that the man or woman of your dreams will knock on your door when you've completed them, but you'll be ready if they do.

So here they are: - Learn to love yourself - Be open to love from others - Release attachments of an expected outcome

Everything else? It's marketing. I've said it before, but it's worth repeating. We have no control over when love arrives in our life. It's magic. All we have is the ability to put ourselves in a position where it will stay.