Unlock Love - How to Overcome Insecurity
I was on Instagram recently, sharing an experience that made me a little nauseous to hit "post" - you can see my overshare here.
The thing is, I know I'm not perfect. I am fully aware that I have flaws, insecurities, and hangups. The difference between me now, and me 10 years ago though? Night and day.
The thing is we ALL have insecurities. We all have that negative internal dialogue that comes from a place of past pain, hurt or sadness. However, I am beyond thankful that I can turn down that voice and often times shut it off completely thanks to the tools I've learned.
Here's what I did to get myself out of that dark space QUICKLY:
1. Acknowledge the thoughts - Woah, am I really thinking this right now? I am! Hmmm, I'm going to take note of this. If you see it, you can change it.
2. Recognize their roots - In my case, I know where this has evolved from. I know the past pains that created the dialogue in my head. Awareness can be healing in of itself.
3. Find a friend - I reached out to two of my girls to bring me back to earth. They put things in perspective and reminded me that I'm human. Find someone that will give you a loving reality check.
4. Release - Today was all about release writing. Letting go of the old story. I wrote for three pages about these feelings that are no longer serving me. Later, (when my daughter is in bed and not observing my pyro nature) I'm going to go outside and burn it. Write until you feel a release.
We are all learning, evolving, and growing. No one has it ALL figured out. And our relationships will often highlight the work that needs to be done. I'm embracing the lesson.
Sending you love and the strength to grow!