How to Stop Dating the Same Person

I've been there. I know you have too. You end up dating the same person. Over and over and over again.

Sure, they may have a variety of names or live in various cities, but that's where the differences end.

Maybe they're all emotionally unavailable or narcissists. Perhaps you have a penchant for bad boys or, alternatively, pushovers.

No matter your affinity, if it's not working it's time to break the cycle.

How do you stop dating the same type of person over and over again?

Become Aware - Simply recognizing your pattern can make a huge impact. Reflect on your last three relationships. Write down the top characteristics of your partner. Reflect on how the relationships made you feel.

Get Real - Now that you've identified these consistent qualities, stop rationalizing them! We are unbelievably talented at ignoring red flags when they are masked by an attractive exterior. Start being honest with yourself.

Dig Deep - So you've dated five emotionally unavailable men in a row, now what? Take some time for introspection on your "why". If you find it hard to pinpoint the reason for your decisionmaking, I highly suggest getting to the bottom of it with a coach or therapist. My Unlock Love course may be a great option.

Take Control - Our patterns repeat because we are set to autopilot. We aren't dating intentionally. We accept whatever (or whoever) comes our way. No longer. You are not only an active participant in your love life, you are in control! Stop settling.

Nothing changes if nothing changes.