There’s no one way.

In the past few weeks I’ve worked with those that believed there was one way to meditate, one way to date, one way to do business, one way to *LIVE*.

Nope. Not even close. How could there be only one option when we are so intricately different?We all have different messages and modalities that resonate. Some may read my messages and have an “ah ha!” moment, while others may be unmoved. It’s cool, it’s all part of the reason why humanity is so magical.

I have many flaws, but the one attribute I have that I am extremely proud of is that I follow the path that I pave.

I work in a way that feels good to me. I meditate and workout the way that resonates (which means often skipping the workout – shhhh, our little secret…). I love the way I want to love.

Are they perfect methods? Definitely not for the entirety of the population, but they are perfect for me.

The next time you think “I must be doing this wrong”, pause and ask yourself “Am I doing this the way I think I am supposed to, or the way that feels good to me?” Only you can determine what works, and trust me, you’ll know it when you find it because it will be easy,

Sending you love and light.

 

Ever feel like you’ve been run over by a truck?

I’m SO happy that it is Sunday! I’m even happier that I’ve been working all afternoon. Weird, huh? See, all week I was in a head cold induced coma. Like the flu without the fever – it was awful. I love to sleep, but the amount of time I was spending snoozing was driving me insane.

But I NEEDED it. I listened to the pleas (screams, really) of my body and stopped. I rescheduled clients and meetings. I took the help from my mom with picking up the kids from their respective schools. I ordered takeout for dinner. All week. I cancelled plans to go to a rollerskating 40th birthday party I was so looking forward to.

I did everything in my power to take care of myself.

You know what? It works! I feel SO good today. I feel like I could take on the world. Or at least stay up for more than 4 hours at a time.

It made me think of how often we just “muscle through”. How when we are hurting, emotionally or physically, we just ignore it. Thinking “it will go away”…..or “I don’t have time to stop”. Well it doesn’t and you do. Just like an illness, if you aren’t taking the time to heal your body or your heart, it doesn’t just go away. It may grow, it may sustain, but it doesn’t just leave without self-care.

Nothing is more important than taking care of yourself. How can you prioritize YOU this week? What little things (or big things!) can you do to make sure that your wounds are being addressed?

My suggestion? The three P’s:

Prioritize – Don’t think you have enough time for self care? How much time are you really spending on things you don’t need? Social media? TV? Pay attention to what takes up your hours and eliminate the activities that are not serving you.

Pamper – It doesn’t take a week in Mexico to pamper yourself. It could be as simple as an extra long shower or a bath. Take time to make your body feel like you aren’t just using it to get from place to place.

Pray – I’m not religious per se, but I am spiritual. I believe that there is a higher power around us that is there to help, especially in situations where we feel fragile. Pray and ask for the help you need. Ask for guidance. And don’t be afraid to listen for an answer…

Sending you so much healthy love!

What’s Your Limit?

My entire body is in pain. I just spent the weekend using muscles I haven’t used in two years since my last ski trip…and it feels amazing! This weekend was all about mother/son bonding, and pushing my own limits. See that sign there? Yeah, I skied it. Five times I went down those trails, with one wipeout when I got a little too sure of myself. I was convinced I was going to be recruited for the race team….not so much.

Two years ago, I probably had the same skill set, but wouldn’t even dream of touching a black diamond, let alone a double! I was playing it safe. Staying in my tidy little box that I built for myself. Those days are OVER. Sitting on the lift after my first run down these killer slopes, I realized how far I’ve come in two years. How sure of myself I’ve become, how unwilling I have become to take any crap – especially from myself.

My secrets to getting to this place aren’t really secrets. I can sum them up in three:
Meditation. Quieting my mind and tapping into my inner wisdom and strength.
Acceptance. Similar to the Serenity Prayer, I stopped trying to change the things within myself and others that I could never control.
My peeps. I have the BEST circle of friends ever. They are unbelievably supportive, smart, funny, and REAL.

That’s it. Really. The scary thing is I feel like I just keep growing. What’s next? Heli-skiing? Maybe….

How are you pushing your boundaries to make sure you are growing? How far can you go? Where do you want to be two years from now? Start now. You won’t regret it.

 

I chopped it all off…

My hair that is. You see, for years I’ve had extensions. You know, that fake (well, actually it’s real, just not mine) hair that everyone on TV has? I got it a few years ago. My hair was always thinner than I wanted (why couldn’t my legs have that problem?!), and when I started doing TV regularly, I decided I might as well join my cohorts in enhancing what God didn’t give me.

I’m over them. Sure I think they were pretty, and made me feel more feminine and confident, but they also made me insecure at the same time. Having to tell my boyfriend to be careful of them, worrying that someone would see them if it was windy out. One day last week they just started to come undone, and I realized it was time to let them go.

I’m just fine the way I am. I don’t need extra hair to feel amazing. My hair doesn’t define me. It’s just an accessory. Don’t get me wrong, I am a proponent of doing what you need to do to feel good about yourself. Sometimes that’s permanent, and sometimes it’s temporary, like extensions. I needed them at the moment to feel confident on TV, but now I know all I need is within me. My knowledge (and hopefully my sense of humor) is why I’m there.

So I’m releasing a crutch, and it feels awesome. What’s your crutch? What are you using to boost your self esteem that may not truly be a part of you? Ever try going without it? Even temporarily? It’s pretty liberating.

Retreat to Move Forward

Every morning this week, this was the view as I stepped out of my villa. Eat Play Love in Puerto Rico was an amazing experience filled with beautiful participants that were even more amazing than the views.

Getting away from it all (with spotty internet), made me recognize so clearly our tendency to move at lightning speed and intense direction without pause.

How often do we step back and appreciate what’s around us? Even if it isn’t palm trees and beaches, there is beauty to take in everywhere.

Allow yourself to enjoy the journey. Life isn’t about a specific destination, but what we learn along the way. Goals are amazing. They keep us on our path, give us hope, and create motivation. However high your goals are, never lose sight of the lessons along the way. Take a minute to retreat. Observe. Appreciate.

I’ll be spending the rest of my night journalling the lessons that I have learned this week. My goals are high and plentiful, but the ride to get there is just as important.

Sending you so much love and light!

PS – Upcoming Retreats and Events

February 12th – Self-Love Celebration!  I am SO excited to be one of the hosts for the incredible Self-Love Celebration coming up in NYC, created by my friend Nitika Chopra. It is sure to be an evening you will not want to miss. Join me in getting pampered with expert facialists, makeup artists, on-the-spot coaching, energy work and even amazing raffle prizes for you to win! The gift bags are always amazing. Register soon because this event always sells out: Click HERE to grab your spot!

February 17th – Man Panel at the 92Y Get inside the minds of men by going straight to the source. 5 guys will answer ALL of your questions. This has always been a hugely popular event so grab your tickets now before they sell out! Click [here](http://www.92y.org/Event/The-Man-Panel.aspx) for more info.

March 20-22 – Girlfriends Getaway Retreat – Save the date for this sure to be awesome experience. Join yogi extraordinaire Laurel Attanasio and I for a weekend at the amazing Sayre Mansion for daily yoga, sessions on love and relationships, self-love group hypnosis, mini facials, and more. The perfect getaway with your girlfriends to rejuvenate and get ready for spring!

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