There are some things that I am really good at. Napping, driving too fast, and making penne a la vodka to name a few. Actually, that may be an exhaustive list.
Do you want to know something I am not good at? Asking for help.
It’s actually painful for me to ask people to help me. I need to be desperate to reach out.
This week I am finishing up my book proposal. I sent it to a few agents, and they told me I needed names of people with followings that would promote the book. Publishers would require it.
I’m lucky to count some pretty influential people as friends, but asking them to help sell my book? Ugh. Please, anything but that.
But I did. I wrote an email to 32 of my friends explaining the situation. I put them all in BCC and created a mass email so that no one would feel singled out or pressured to respond. I tried to be as self-deprecating as possible with an extra dose of humility for good measure.
You know what happened? 29 people wrote back within 24 hours saying HELL YES. Not just, “sure Rachel, I guess I can do that”, but with messages of support that made me cry.
They wanted to help me. They wanted to support me. I just had to ask.
I doubt I’ll ever be the person who feels comfortable asking for help. However, this experience taught me that if there is something that I truly believe in (like my book) or something that I really need, friends will WANT to support me, and it’s ok to ask.
What do you need help with? Who is ready, willing, and able to support you? Don’t be afraid to ask.