Month: June 2014

Let it go.

I like to be in control. I’m not going deny it. I’m a big fan of creating plans, knowing what is going to happen, and when.

The times that I have no control, knowledge, or plan? Well, that is just plain scary! It’s anxiety producing.

There are so many areas of our lives that we pretend we have control over, but we don’t. So why do we become anxious over something that we can’t plan?

Love cannot be controlled.

Finding someone to love is easy. Finding someone to love, that loves you, and wants the same future? That can be challenging.

Even with all the coaching in the world, there will always be an element of fate involved when it comes to love. My greatest loves arrived without me looking, or even being aware. They showed up because I was open, happy, and relaxed. Not because I followed rules, or had a formula.

It’s time we all let it go. Create a space for love in your life. Be open. Do things that make the possibility of finding love more likely. Do the work on yourself.

Just don’t try to control love. When it starts to feel like work, it’s time to step back and just be.

Be love and find love. Let it all go, and believe that you are exactly where you are meant to be. There is a greater plan out there than you could ever imagine.

I am not enough.

I am not attractive enough.

I am not smart enough.

I am not successful enough.

I am not thin enough.

I am not enough.

How many times a day do these words cross your mind? Why do you let someone else define your worth? How hard on yourself are you for not being “perfect’?

I’ll let you in on something. There is no such thing as perfect.

No perfect life. No perfect face. No perfect body. No perfect mate.

There is life. It’s messy. It’s dirty. It’s confusing. And it is beautiful. Just as you are beautiful.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Every single one of you have abilities, talents, and attributes that are enviable to someone else. So why think that you are in any less than enough? Why let someone else, media, or society create that doubt?

We all have our moments. My friend once said to me, “I need to know your flaws! You seem so….perfect!” I laughed. Hard. I’m far from it. If you’ve been reading my messages for a while, you are fully aware of that. I have my moments when I don’t feel enough. I spent my childhood never feeling enough. I still battle an internal dialogue at times. So why on the outside do I appear ok? Because I took back my power. I realized that someone else’s opinion of me is none of my business. I realized that I like, no, LOVE, me. I realized that for all my imperfections, I’m still pretty damn awesome. Cocky? No. Confident? Yes. Perfect? Not a chance.

The next time you feel less than, remember, YOU ARE ENOUGH.

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