Month: March 2014

We are all afraid.

What are you afraid of?

We are all afraid of something. Some may have big fears that prevent them from living their best life, and others may have small fears that keep them from making certain steps. I’m debilitatingly terrified of spiders, and because of that, I am not a fan of the outdoors. Or bugs in general. I’m also afraid of not being enough. Not being attractive enough, or skinny enough, or smart enough, or funny enough.

One, a small fear that keeps me from camping (and I’m ok with that). The other, a large fear that could hold me back from achieving my dreams. We are all afraid of something. It’s how we deal with them that makes the difference.

I was recently invited to give my second TEDx at Syracuse University next month. My topic? Killing Fear. I want it gone. I want it overcome, not only for me, but for you as well.

Over the next week, I want you to think about your fears. Grab a journal, and write down whenever you feel afraid. Every moment, every thought, every passed opportunity. Go one step further and write down WHY you feel afraid. Take it to an even deeper level, and write out what you would be doing if you didn’t have that fear. What goals would you be achieving? Where would you be?

Understanding the when and why you have fear can be an enormous leap into overcoming those feelings, but recognizing the actual cost? Well, that can be downright life changing.

“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.” – Marianne Williamson

A360 Takes a Look at Online Dating

Anderson Cooper is one of my favorite journalists, so when I was asked to contribute to a piece A360 was doing on online dating, I jumped at the chance. Check out the segment here for a quick look at where we are headed in this digital age of dating.

Remember, online dating is a tool, a resource, for those looking for love. It shouldn’t replace meeting people in your “real” life, but allow another venue to increase the possibility of finding your partner. Connect online and take it offline as soon as possible. You never know who could be out there!

Who you should really be listening to….

Experts. Gurus. Coaches. There seems to be one for everything and everyone. Their advice often contradicts. The foundation of their expertise can be questionable. Anyone with a mouth and an opinion seems to be giving themselves some sort of title of importance these days. Including me. My legal background and education/regulation required me to do more than hang up a shingle. I sought certification as a coach, I’ve attended too many seminars and workshops to count, and I have an infinite search for knowledge. Does that mean I know everything? Not a chance. I’m always learning.

So who should you listen to? Who should you turn to when you are looking for guidance or feel lost, confused, or frustrated?

The answer isn’t me.

It’s you.

Every one of us has an immense amount of intuition. My clients often tell me, “I KNOW this! I could do your job!” The truth is, yes, you could! I believe that every single person reading this has the answers within them. What to do, where to go, and who to love. You KNOW when there is a red flag that you breeze past in hopes that this time will be different. You KNOW that you need to break out of your comfort zone to make a change. You KNOW that you deserve more than crumbs.

Experts, gurus, coaches, me. We are only here to help you unearth that intuition, unblock your own walls that keep you from following what you already KNOW, and help along the way by sharing what has worked for others.

We aren’t all-knowing. We aren’t better than anyone else. We simply have found a way to help you realize that you knew the answers all along. You just needed to turn up the volume.

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